There’s no such thing as a guilty pleasure
There is no such thing as a guilty pleasure. Society often teaches us that certain pleasures are “bad” or “unproductive.” Which causes many of us to internalize guilt around things that bring us joy—whether it’s a favorite TV show, romance book, or a decadent dessert. But what if we removed the guilt and simply allowed ourselves to enjoy?
The roots of “guilty pleasure” thinking
Cultural Conditioning: Many people, especially women and people of color, are taught to prioritize productivity over pleasure. Misogyny also plays a role in what gets considered a “guilty” pleasure. Art and entertainment enjoyed by women are often dismissed or not taken seriously, which can lead to feelings of shame surrounding these interests.
Religious and Moral Influences: Some belief systems frame pleasure as indulgent or sinful. So much shame surrounding pleasure comes from religion. There is also this idea within some religious communities that you suffer in life and reap your rewards in the afterlife.
Capitalism & Hustle Culture: The pressure to always be “doing” makes rest and enjoyment feel unearned. Even the idea that we have to earn rest is problematic. This desire for success impacts our ability to enjoy life in the present.
why pleasure is essential to well-being
Mental & Emotional Health: Enjoyment reduces stress, increases dopamine, and fosters creativity. If you are struggling with anxiety or depression, it is absolutely essential that you include pleasurable activities into your care plan.
Rest as Resistance: Rejecting guilt around pleasure is a radical act of self-care. This is important especially for black women to remember. Our ancestors were not allowed rest and were utilized for others pleasure. The effects of this is still sewn into the fabric of our society. Every time we center our pleasure or rest, is a radical act of self care.
The Joy Factor: Living fully means embracing what lights you up—without justification. You are allowed to enjoy things, simply because you do. Enjoy your life because it’s yours.
life without guilt: practical steps to embrace pleasure
Notice When Guilt Creeps In: Notice when you are feeling guilty and investigate where those feelings are coming from. Challenge those thoughts with self-compassion.
Prioritize Joy Every Day: Make time for small and big pleasures without apology. Pleasurable activities do not have to be grand. If you find joy in enjoying a cup of coffee outside by yourself for 10 minutes, that is enough. The more joy you have in your life, the more satisfied and fulfilled you will be.
Surround Yourself with Pleasure-Positive People: Community can help shift perspectives. Spend time with people who also find joy in the simple moments. Also, be mindful to limit exposure to people who are critical of things that bring you joy, you don’t need that kind of energy in your life.
give yourself permission to enjoy
Your joy is not something to feel guilty about—it’s something to celebrate. It is not something you have to earn, it is your right. Please allow yourself to experience pleasure freely. Ultimately, life is meant to be lived. We create so many rules in our head about what should or shouldn’t be. But this is your life and you are allowed to find enjoyment in what genuinely brings you pleasure. Whether it’s pop music, reality TV, or taking long naps —if it makes you happy, it matters. Reminder: There is no such thing as a guilty pleasure.
What’s one pleasure you’ll embrace fully today?